Is it possible to be permanently happy? The key to happiness is in undiluted love and selflessness. I am not talking about ephemeral happiness, the one that we get from worldly goods in life, such as life achievements and positions, or from a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, or even parent. These ‘things’ are subject to decay or change and so is the happiness they bring. That is where we miss the point, we search for happiness in the wrong places. How dare you place your burden of happiness on another human? How fair do you think that is? How dare you place your burden of happiness on worldly desires? The truth is our desires are insatiable and all they would ever bring is temporary happiness. We live our lives trying to please others so as to be happy but we forget that there is no written script on how to get people to love us, we can only do our part by loving and expecting nothing in return as you have no control over other people’s actions. The key to achieving eternal happiness is in selflessness and love, just as the secret to greatness is in serving. We have to understand that our reward is not in the hands of “man” but rather in the hands of the One who is the Master of the universe. Jesus said: As the father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love, and if you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be full (John 15:9-11). Any man who perfects these acts would live a blissful life but a man who continues to attach his state of happiness to the opinions of “man” or worldly desires would have more days of disappointments, sorrow and sadness than happiness. Undiluted love means we long for the welfare of all beings, rejoice with people, yearn for their prosperity and the same applies to your enemies. For there is greater blessing in loving than being loved.
However, practice makes perfect they say, we have to practice the acts of selflessness and undiluted love by making conscious effort. As we make these efforts, meditate ceaselessly upon them, the journey to eternal blissfulness becomes so short and later achieved. A man who prides himself in his ego can never achieve eternal happiness. Our Lord Jesus Christ came to this earth as human and he lived a perfect life by perfecting the acts of loving and selflessness. Ridding oneself of selfishness has to be carried out without the fear of being ridiculed and trampled upon, remember your reward is in hands of the one who created the heavens and earth. There should be focus and conscientiousness in the effort of ridding oneself of selfishness by watering the seeds of love and selflessness that have already been planted somewhere in your mind by God.
Your friends and even those you love selflessly will mock you, ridicule you, accuse you of inconsistency, and even multiple personalities because you will fall sometimes but do not worry, only a hammer persistence can drive a nail of success. True courage is not the absence of fear but the mastery of fear (Zig Ziglar). By the time you have rid yourself of selfishness and mastered the act of loving and selflessness, all the ridicule, and mockery can no longer inflict pain on you, they would recognize your eternal happiness and naturally respect you but also remember that your reward is in the hands of our heavenly father.
No one was born selfish, we are what we are today due to the things we picked up or learned while growing, and just as we learned or picked these things, we also possess the power to drop or unlearn them. There is a Chinese proverb that says; the best time to plant a tree is 20years ago, the second best time is now.
Learn to love and you shall see in all souls, even those called “degraded”, the divine beauty, and shall know that it will not fail to come forth in its own season. This is one of the heavenly visions; it is out of this that gladness comes (James Allen, 1864-1912). Begin your journey into the gateway of selflessness today, for there lies the Elysium of abiding joy and eternal happiness.